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Should you attend a gay wedding? “No.”

September 20, 2012

This is the 2nd in a series of posts asking the question: “Should you attend a gay wedding?” Every Christian needs to answer this question.  Whether you’ve been asked to attend a gay wedding yet or not, you will be asked. So it’s important to determine your answer now.

In the first post of this series I laid the biblical framework from which I’m working. Today I’m going to present the argument that no, you should not attend a gay wedding. Next week I will present the common arguments for why you should attend a gay wedding. Below are the 3 most common arguments for why you shouldn’t attend a gay wedding.

  1. Attendance at a wedding is giving approval to what is happening, so if you attend a gay wedding you are approving of all gay unions. Part of the reason, this argument goes, to attend any wedding is to support the couple in a communal act of approval. The congregation is not merely an audience, but participants, in the ceremony of the two becoming one. Therefore, if you are to attend a gay wedding under any pretenses, you are showing the couple that you approve of what they are doing and fully support the lifestyle they choose. So it is anti-biblical to attend a gay wedding, since the Bible teaches marriage is between a man and a woman.
  2. Attendance at a gay wedding makes you unholy. This argument sounds a little more religious on the surface, but it makes a good point. God commands his people in the Bible to “come out from them and be holy.” In the Old Testament a plague was sent on Israel and only stopped when a man sleeping with a foreign woman was stabbed through. In the New Testament, a couple who lied about how much they gave to the church dropped dead on the spot. The point in both instances is that God wants his people to be holy. If we are celebrating with those who are practicing gay marriage, how can we call ourselves holy? Are we not joining in one of the very sins for which Christ died? Are we not becoming like the church in 1 Corinthians 5, which boasts about the grace they show, when in reality God wants us to stand apart from those who sin?
  3. Attendance at a gay wedding decreases your chance to impact the couple for Christ. I said in post one that one of the guiding principles for this topic needs to be that our ultimate goal as Christians is to share Christ with people. Based on point #2 above, if you send a confusing signal of what is sin, you lose effectiveness at guiding others into truth. Paul explains that the point of the law is to show us how much we need Christ. So if we do not uphold the holiness of God, people cannot see how far short of that they fall, and therefore cannot see their personal need for Christ.

These are the 3 most common arguments, in one way or another, that I have heard for not attending a gay wedding. They are brief, but I believe they cover the principle arguments people give to not attend a gay wedding. Please let me know if there are other common arguments you have heard that I have neglected to list.

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